Dear John Letters Begin Arriving in Iraq
Sunday July 13, 2003
It's a sad, but true fact that "Dear John" letters are a real part of every military deployment, and the deployment to Iraq is no exception. However, in these "modern times," the "Dear John" arrives not only by letter, but via email and "morale calls" as well.
From Twinkle, a member of our message forum: "I think it's extremely sad that the wives or the husbands or girlfriends or boyfriends can't even stand a period of seperation (no matter for whatever reason, deployment or not). I understand it is very difficult for everyone who's deployed and their spouses/bf/gf. But you marry someone because you love that person, not because so you have someone to sleep with or so you don't feel alone. Those soldiers are fighting for their lives and their safety, and what support do they get from back home? A dear john letter/email/phone call? Now they have nothing to look forward to."
From Twinkle, a member of our message forum: "I think it's extremely sad that the wives or the husbands or girlfriends or boyfriends can't even stand a period of seperation (no matter for whatever reason, deployment or not). I understand it is very difficult for everyone who's deployed and their spouses/bf/gf. But you marry someone because you love that person, not because so you have someone to sleep with or so you don't feel alone. Those soldiers are fighting for their lives and their safety, and what support do they get from back home? A dear john letter/email/phone call? Now they have nothing to look forward to."
Comments
What does the flood of “Dear John” letter to Iraq say about our American Women? Has equal status in society and under the law helped American Women become better people? Shame on our women who find temporary separation intolerable and too inconvenient. Are these women the true keepers of relationships? Women of generations before were the glue that held families together. These women have no staying strength. Relationships with these women are too painful to be worthwhile. Shame.
I guess you didn’t read it properly. It seems men back home and sending dear john letters to their wives and girlfriends serving there, as well.
But of course that gets ignored by you. So what does that say about men?
Dear John or Dear Jane, it’s all the same.
I wish that friends and family members would take a greater role in encouraging the spouses, GF/BF to hang in, and be there when our soldiers return home.
Unfortunately, today’s culture places little value on enduring relationships and the importance of family.
It’s not just a vet problem, but it is particularly tragic for men and women serving their country thousands of miles from home.